Sunday, May 12, 2013
What I Want for Mother's Day...A Nap!
Mother’s Day is the one day that mom’s get the recognition they deserve. Be it a box of chocolates or a bouquet of flowers, the world stops and takes notice of the hard work moms put in on a daily basis. And we love it. We want the Sunday gospel-jazz-bottomless-mimosa brunch, the dozen long-stemmed roses, and the tear-jerking Hallmark card to show all of our friends. Am I right, or am I right? Well, when you a divorced mommy, the list changes a little. The only thing on my list right now…a nap.
This year, Mother’s Day falls on daddy’s weekend. So the kiddos will be with their father. All of my married-with-children friends were aghast. “You don’t want to be with your kids?” “What will you do?” “Will you be sad?” That is usually followed up by a litany of invitations to various activities with their families. I will admit, the first year I was divorced, holidays were hard. I dreaded the first Christmas without my children. I couldn’t even enjoy the holiday because I was so overwhelmed with grief. No kids on Christmas?!! You’ve got to be kidding me? That’s when a mature, aka older, female friend shared some sage wisdom with me. She said to take these times to rest and rejuvenate. Being a single mom, I mean and divorced mom (sorry Toni Williams) is hard work. You are a better mother when you’ve had some down time.
Guess what. She was right. Because I am in the fast lane all the time with the kids, I get overheated. And there are some days when I know the kids can’t stand me because I can’t stand myself. So nowadays when they are away, I take that time to revive myself. Now don’t get me wrong, I do occasionally go out and shake a leg (aging myself), but sometimes I just like to put on what the kids call a night-night shirt, turn on Law and Order, and just kick back in front of the TV. It’s not exciting, but necessary when you are the primary caregiver for three little ones.
So don’t think I’m crazy when I pass on the Bloody Mary bar or afternoon matinee for Mother’s Day. I’m just taking a little breather, and Mother’s Day is the perfect day to do it. Don’t you think?